Listed below are two statements about twelve different issues. Each of you should read both statements, then select the one that is closest to your own viewpoint. Make your selections for all twelve issues separately, then share these with your partner. Talk about these issues from the perspective of the family in which you grew up, then talk about how you currently view these.

1. Money is to be spent only when necessary.
   Money is to be enjoyed.
2. Success is to be pursued by all legitimate means.
   Success should not be pursued at the expense of family ties/
3. Women's primary role is in the home.
   Women have the right to achieve outside the home as much as men.
4. A person has a right to be openly proud of his achievements.
   Modesty is noble; boastfulness is crude.
5. You can only solve a problem by acting on it; talk is a waste of time.
   You can best solve a problem by talking it through.
6. Words can be used for effect. Exaggeration is just a way to make a point.
   Words are to be used carefully, not wasted.
7. Marriage is between two people.
   Marriage is between two families.
8. Anger is expressed by continued fighting and debate.
   Anger is shown by distancing and silence.
9. The authority of the parent is nondebatable.
   All family rules can be negotiated, by everyone.
10. Your problem is my problem.
    Don't interfere in other's affairs.
11. Food is an expression of giving and love.
    Food is for sustenance. Eat with moderation.
12. Cleanliness is next to godliness.
    A little clutter makes a house look lived in.